Love is patient and kind love does not envy or boast it is not arrogant or rude. Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends. Now slowly read the below bible verses with this new revelation And it was standing in the way of loving my wife, as Christ loved the church You put aside YOUR desires, YOUR wants, YOUR needs, YOUR comforts for the benefit of the other person. Sacrificing your ego is like dying to yourself. It is putting yourself (EGO) aside for the interest of the other person. How is this? simply put, marriage is NOT ABOUT YOU! It is not about getting what you want. He goes on to say, that the only reason one should get married is this… to practice the daily sacrifice of one’s ego.
Now, that we have been married a few years, I know that nothing can be further from the truth. He says that most people get married in order to be HAPPY! In his letter, the father says that a lot of people get married for the wrong reason, and that is why most marriages fail. Marriage is a Daily Sacrifice of Your EgoĪ few days before we got married, I stumbled across this letter that a father wrote to his son. Ego focusses more on YOURSELF while SELFLESSNESS focuses more on the others.
#EGO IS THE ENEMY CRUSADES FULL#
When you walk into a room full of strangers, what 1st comes into your thoughts?ĮGO: What are all this people thinking about me? Simply put, selflessness is not timidness or being a door-mat. Selflessness is simply thinking of your SELF LESS. People think that selflessness is not thinking about your interests at all. No, the bible does not tell us not to think of ourselves at all, it just says think of yourselves LESS. The more I love Gathoni, the better my life becomes! If I can put her interests 1st, then my interests will automatically be taken care of. Paul then says that If I desire a better life & more happiness (Self-love) then I just need to invest more in catering to the interests of my wife. Just imagine that! And the reason why it was so difficult was because of that simple 3 letter word EGO! I found it interesting that Paul did not command us men to love our wives MORE than our own bodies but to love them in the SAME measure as we love ourselves. When I put MY interest before her own, Gathoni felt un-loved. And that is why Gathoni kept telling me that every time she felt un-loved was when I was being selfish. That means` that clearly we men LOVE ourselves so much. Apostle Paul here is addressing the husbands and admonishes them to love their wives, as they love their own bodies. The Bible here gives us a key/principle that is seldom ever talked about. I have just capitalized/emphasized the words for the benefit of our discussion today. For a man who loves his wife actually shows love for HIMSELF.” Ephesians 5:28 (NLT) “In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives AS they love their OWN bodies. The reason why I was struggling to love my wife was hidden in a tiny verse in the bible, that everyone seemed to avoid What They Never Tell You Before You Get Married Something was wrong, where was I dropping the ball? When did the rain start beating us? The answer was simply in the word of God. As the years wore on, I was getting accused of indifference much more than I was being praised for being loving.
Gathoni was constantly feeling unloved and all my ‘attempts’ at showing her love were failing. This, I believed was the opposite of love and I got all my arsenal & guns out to fight indifference in our marriage. Indifference is basically stopping to care, stopping to communicate, stopping to fight for your marriage. So, from the onset, I knew that my job was cut out for me, I had one enemy in my marriage and that was INDIFFERENCE. Even though it sounded so simple, it was the hardest job in the world, and I talk about it in my blog post here. I knew that in order to have a happy & fulfilling marriage, then I simply had to love Gathoni.
The Bible commands the husbands to love their wives as Christ loved the church.